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Feedback, Gender[queer], Q&A, Queer[ness]

Feedback: “I just want to say I found some of your videos on YouTube and some of them have really resonated with me…”

June 21, 2016 /

anonymous said: I just want to say I found some of your videos on YouTube and some of them have really resonated with me. I’ve always identified as bi, and was identifying as neutrois but sort of on the fence about it being the right term, and upon watching one of your videos awhile ago explaining your experience while identifying as neutrois and why you coined maverique, I’ve started to realize maverique may fit me better as well. So yeah, I just want to say thanks for doing what you do, and say keep doing it! thanks for not only watching my videos, but also for taking the time out of your day to come and send me this really nice message, anon. i appreciate the feedback & encouragement and am honored to hear that my neutrois / maverique video resonated with you. 🙂 keep being awesome yourself!

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Vesper H.

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Q&A not Q&A: “you’re personality REALLY reminds me of me. I’m also what you call “apathetic as hell.””

June 19, 2016 /

anonymous said: you’re personality REALLY reminds me of me. I’m also what you call “apathetic as hell.” I just think you can catch more flies with honey. People shut down if you automatically start tearing them down. You don’t build yourself (& others) up by tearing someone (& others) down. PLUS you’ll NEVER get them to understand what you’re talking about if you attack them back because they’ll be in their defensive mindset. It’s effective in helping people evolve. It’s also important to pick your fights. If you’re constantly fighting not only are you going to drain yourself but people will start to take your fighting level as a basic level of how you react to things and they’ll take you less seriously. Also some people do screw up and don’t realize it; informing them on the issue and helping them improve themselves is better than just throwing them under…

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Vesper H.

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February 23, 2016
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Feedback: “I’m trying to understand more LGBTQIA issues and you’re blog is really helping me.”

June 19, 2016 /

anonymous said: post/140747818071/my-friend-i-both-identify-as-queer-women-she-is <- this was a great post you clarified so much for me THANK YOU. I’ve been trying to understand this kind of issue. I’m asexual, aromantic, and sex repulsed so it’s a blurred perspective for these kinds of topics but I’m trying to understand more LGBTQIA issues and you’re blog is really helping me. It sucks that’s it’s difficult to find a legit discussion about these kinds of topics on tumblr but hey… it’s tumblr. (the post in question) honored to be of any help to you, anon. the a problem with Tumblr is that even if there is serious discussion about important things going on on this site, it can be impossible to find it because of the way Tumblr is setup and that sucks as much as the apparently lack of serious discussions at times… sigh.

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Vesper H.

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February 23, 2016
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Feedback: “…four years ago I discovered your channel and it was one of the cornerstones of support and information for me…”

May 29, 2016 /

celestialodysseys said: Hey I just wanted to say that four years ago I discovered your channel and it was one of the cornerstones of support and information for me as I started coming to terms with my Queerness. Your videos gave me a sense of comfort and pride and I always smile when I see something from your blog or YouTube channel <3 …i don’t even know what to say. it’s incredibly kind of you to take time out of your day to come and share this with me. thank you. it means a lot and it’s an honor to have helped you in any way. but seriously, sticking with me for four years? thank you. you’ve basically grown alongside me and that really is an honor. thanks for sticking with me and never stop being awesome. <3

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Vesper H.

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February 23, 2016
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Feedback: “Thank you so much for what you’re doing, Vesper…”

May 5, 2016 /

anonymous said: Oh my gosh you are absolutely amazing and wonderful and just askdfl. Thank you so much for what you’re doing, Vesper- it’s helped me so much. Not only has your advocacy helped me understand my own identity, but it has inspired me to educate myself about very important issues regarding gender, sexuality, and the constant marginalization of minority groups in the U.S. (I use the term minority groups bc if I name every group the U.S. devalues we’d be here all day. Which is sad.) Srryifthisisweird D: ….thank you, anon. you really are too kind. i don’t think my actions worthy of being described with such a word, but i’m very much flattered that you consider what i do to be advocacy. i view it as me having a lot of feels and an exhausting inclination for unleashing said feels onto the world in ways that sometimes make…

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February 23, 2016
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Feedback: “I’m in America, I don’t see any connection between my gender/sexuality. However, when I studied abroad in Italy, I felt like gender norms…”

March 28, 2016 / No Comments

anonymous said: I just watched your new video on being non-binary and ace. When I’m in America, I don’t see any connection between my gender/sexuality. However, when I studied abroad in Italy, I felt like gender norms there were more strong and rigid. I identify as mostly a girl but in Italy there is so much open hypersexualization of black women. I wanted to be completely invisible,masculine, and felt way more asexual and dysphoric than in America. Do you experience these changes in intensity when you travel? oh my god yes. a million times yes. gender norms, like social norms in general, are very much tied to culture, which means that they differ from culture to culture. on top of that, when you’re immersed in a culture that’s different from your own, the differences can exacerbate how one feels about the norms of the culture you’re immersed in… while…

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Vesper H.

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Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”
February 23, 2016
Feedback, Gender[queer], Q&A, Queer[ness]

Feedback: “Thanks for your most recent post re: saying no/transphobia/people’s need to express “no” being prioritized over the well-being of trans people.”

March 14, 2016 /

anonymous said: Thanks for your most recent post re: saying no/transphobia/people’s need to express “no” being prioritized over the well-being of trans people. I think you cut to the heart of it – it’s not reasonable to ask trans ppl (like me) to deprioritize discussing transness and transphobia once sexual consent gets brought up. That also assumes, IMO, that trans people are never in the group of ppl who need to say no and don’t have the tools?? Which, like, trans people (and trans women especially!) are targets for sexual violence and are often *especially* lacking access to “no”. Also I think it ties really grossly into “trans women as rapists” tropes (I’m AFAB so I hope I’m getting it right) – the fact that (presumably cis) people’s consent immediately becomes the ONLY IMPORTANT THING once trans people start talking about desirability and transness speaks to how cis people honestly…

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February 23, 2016
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Feedback: “I just wanna say I really appreciate how calm and focused you are in discussions.”

February 24, 2016 /

anonymous said: I just wanna say I really appreciate how calm and focused you are in discussions. Even when you say you ‘step on people’s toes’ but like, you’re always polite from what I see and it’s just really great and I really respect you. お疲れさま. ありがとう、ホンマに。 i try. i really do… ＿|￣|○

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February 23, 2016
[A]sexuality, Feedback, Q&A, Queer[ness]

Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

February 23, 2016 /

anonymous said: Hi, I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing–I’m aroflux, have a qpp and’ve been miffed about the same things. Like, it’s great the term exists, but I feel invalidated by many promotions of it. Love’s not a binary. yeah… i wish people would think of attractions more like this: instead of isolating certain types of attraction and positioning them on a linear scale or even spectrum, as people often do. that said, the above is the 15min product of my sleep deprived brain functioning after 3am on 4hrs of sleep. it’s not thought out and thus is full of holes and problems, so please don’t take it too seriously zzz… edit: someone asked me to define these types of attraction, so i gave it a shot. disclaimer: please bear in mind that these are my own personal definitions as of now (2.24.2016).…

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Feedback: “I JUST WATCHED YOUR GENDER TAG VIDEO AND ????????”

February 16, 2016 /

anonymous said: I JUST WATCHED YOUR GENDER TAG VIDEO AND ???????? I’M MAVERIQUE AND ACE TOO AND JUST ?????????????? HOW DID THIS HAPPEN WHAT IS THIS MAGIC just yeah I got really excited and wanted to say hey (also is the black ring you’re wearing in it an ace ring or something else?) hi! thanks for watching and stopping by. it is cool that we have those things in common. 🙂 the black ring that i wear on my right middle finger is an ace ring to me, yes. 🙂 although i must admit that i have a thing for rings and the color black in general, so i’d probably be wearing it even if i wasn’t ace lol…

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February 23, 2016