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  • Q&A

    Q&A not Q&A: “Asexual doesn’t mean “lack”, it’s not a *lack* of sexual interest, it’s just *little to no* sexual interest…”

    January 13, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Asexual doesn’t mean “lack”, it’s not a *lack* of sexual interest, it’s just *little to no* sexual interest. It’s not missing, it’s just insignificant to the person who identifies as asexual. Asexuals aren’t broken. Asexuals aren’t missing parts. Asexuals can have sex lives, and still not have sexual attracted to anyone. (in response to this post) there are multiple things in this ask that i’d like to point out, so i’m going to use bullet points for the sake of clarity and ease. the whole point of that post was to say that there is more than one valid definition of what it means to be asexual. among those valid definitions is asexuality being a lack of sexual attraction. another valid definition is asexuality being little to no sexual attraction. some people in the asexual community do define asexuality in relation to sexual interest or desire. this is…

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    Vesper H.

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    February 23, 2016
  • Black[ness],  Japan[ese],  Q&A

    Q&A: “What do you think about the treatment of black people specifically in Japan?

    January 11, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Hi, I’m also a black agender person from the states. What do you think about the treatment of black people specifically in Japan? hmm…. i’m finding this question really hard to answer because it’s so…. vague? and open-ended? hmm… i could respond to this with a really long winded answer, but i’m tired and should be in bed, so i’ll give you an abbreviated one! while Japan in has internalized antiblackness issues just like anywhere else, i don’t think that Japan (as a whole) treats black people any specific way. there are people who fetishize or idolize black (specifically black American) culture / music / people… these people are really fucking annoying to run into, but for the most part people are respectful and curious in a healthy way. aside from the aforementioned fetishists, i’d say the most troublesome thing that a black person encounters in Japan that…

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    story time: when “African” is more important than “American”

    August 14, 2016

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    November 28, 2017

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    July 12, 2017
  • Q&A

    Q&A: “do you think you could help me explain why sexuality is not the same as having a “racial preference”…?”

    January 9, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Hey, do you think you could help me explain why sexuality is not the same as having a “racial preference” for who you date? Like I know they’re different but I can’t seem to explain it very well. Thanks!! hi anon! sorry for taking so long to reply. in my humble opinion, “sexuality” is a very broad term that is used to describe a wide variety of things, including preferences that a person may have with regards to gender, number of partners, types of relationships, hair color/type/location, race, and a million other things. racial preference is a thing that could be considered relevant to a person’s sexuality. that doesn’t mean it isn’t or can’t be racist to have such a preference. that said, i get the feeling that you’re looking to explain the difference between sexual orientation and racial preference rather than sexuality in general. that is a…

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    February 23, 2016
  • Q&A

    Q&A: “can i use asexual as an umbrella term?”

    January 4, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: can i use asexual as an umbrella term? i identify with more than one (a)sexualites (cupio/demi/grey) so i think it’s a lot easier to just say im asexual sure, go with whatever feels comfortable and right for you, be it asexual, ace, ace spectrum, etc. some will disagree with me on this, but people use asexual as an umbrella word to mean various things all the time. i’m not an authority on the word asexual and i am not about to police others’ usage of the word.

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    February 23, 2016
  • Q&A

    Q&A: “I think I’m a ciswoman, but I don’t know if I really felt related to other women…”

    January 4, 2016 / No Comments

    Hi! I think I always felt comfortable with my gender and body, but it’s been a few days I’m looking for things on genders and identites to learn things. I think I’m a ciswoman, but I don’t know if I really felt related to other women. I feel related to women characters in medias and through feminism/sexism. But when my friends say “Hey, we’re women/you’re a woman/as women”, I’m like “and?” In fact, I think I identify as a woman but I don’t really care about my gender… I don’t know if I’m just a ciswoman trying to question myself for no reason or if I’m more in a grey area, like greygender and/or demigirl. Because I never questionned my gender. But when thinking about, the gender binary is just weird and I don’t know what I’m supposed to feel like “as a woman”. Maybe it’s like asexuality and aromanticism:…

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    February 23, 2016

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  • Q&A

    Q&A: “what is graysexual”

    January 2, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: what is graysexual graysexual / gray-asexual is an umbrella term for people who experience sexual attraction infrequently, rarely, weakly, only under certain circumstances, etc and for people who feel a connection to asexuality but who do not identify specifically as asexual. see http://www.demigray.org/faq for more information.

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  • Q&A

    Q&A: “what is the difference between bisexual and polysexual?”

    January 2, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: what is the difference between bisexual and polysexual? whenever i ask this i get a wishy-washy answer and I am hoping you can clear this up for me? thanks. hi, anon. may i recommend checking out my bi vs poly tag? you’ll find more in-depth answers to your question there. the short answer is that being bi and being poly means different things to different people. common definitions of the two are: bi: attraction to two or more genders. poly: attraction to multiple, but not necessarily all, genders. there can be and often is overlap between these two identities. again, please see my bi vs poly tag for more about that. that said, chances are high that you’ve in fact already come across similar responses to your question before and that you will consider my response to be as “wishy-washy” as the rest. i say this because in my…

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    February 23, 2016

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  • Q&A

    Q&A: “How did you come up with the word maverique and is there a meaning behind the word…?”

    January 2, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: I know I’m late to the whole maverique discussion which means you might’ve already been asks this, but: How did you come up with the word maverique and is there a meaning behind the word besides the gender def.?? actually, while i have talked about why i coined the word maverique, i don’t think i’ve ever talked about my thought process behind coming up with the word. thank you for asking, anon. this is a great opportunity for me to do so. 🙂 Q: how did you come up with the word maverique? for the longest time i couldn’t find the words to describe my own sense of gender… none of the existing genders that i knew of described me and even when i tried to describe my gender in more general terms, i found it extremely difficult to do so… the only word that seemed vaguely relevant was…

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    Feedback: “thank you so much for clarifying how to use POC!”

    January 2, 2016 /

    anonymous said: thank you so much for clarifying how to use POC! as a developmentally disabled person i tend to have a lot of confusion when it comes to which situations to use certain terms, so i really really appreciate it!! no problem, anon. thank you for being open to learning. 🙂

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    February 23, 2016
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    Feedback: “Thank you so much for your video on young aces, it really helped me.”

    January 2, 2016 /

    anonymous said: Thank you so much for your video on young aces, it really helped me. thanks for watching, anon! and for being so kind as to send me this message. i’m flattered that my video helped you. 🙂

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VESPER H.

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Queer As Cat is the blog and YouTube channel of Vesper, an American expat currently living in Japan.
reoccurring topics include: #asexuality, #nonbinary, #queerness #blackness & #mentalhealth

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