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  • [Random] Thoughts,  Gender[queer]

    f’in birthday cards

    June 23, 2015 / 1 Comment

    *gets home to see a birthday card from mom in the mailbox* me: ….hm. *opens envelope to see a pink and gold card with butterflies and a big, fat “For You, Daughter” on the front* me: ……… *opens card to see a long, handwritten message* *reads long, seemingly heartfelt message half smiling until* card: ……..I may not have been all that you desired me to be, but I’ve tried my best. I love you! You will always be my daughter! Still My Child!!!” me: ………………………… *goes onto Google Hangouts* *types exasperatedly* me: you expect me to happily say thank you for a card in which you’ve repeatedly misgendered me AGAIN just because you wrote nice things?? i’m sorry but no. thank you for the birthday present, but i don’t need cards in which you ignore my gender. *hits send, closes Google Hangouts* *watches Orange is the New Black while eating dinner…

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    Vesper H.

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    gossip 〜 the first gay culture cafe in Tokyo

    August 24, 2016

    QAC 24.5 Life Update: Tokyo / Asexual Pride + Outted Again + More

    June 3, 2014

    …so this happened at TRP today.

    May 7, 2016
  • [A]sexuality,  Gender[queer],  Queer[ness],  YouTube[r]

    QAC 37 – Forced Out of the Closet: 1.5 Years Later (Non-Binary Asexual)

    June 16, 2015 / No Comments

    it’s been nearly a year and a half since i was outted to my ultra religious mom as a non-binary, panromantic / biromantic asexual. things have been, and continue to be, rough between us at times… that said, there has been progress. it took well over a year, but she’s now making an effort to come to terms with part of my sexuality….? meanwhile continuing to completely reject my gender. thus far, the road to acceptance and understanding has been long and hard; sadly, as of now, that road still has no end in sight. ——— LINKS ——— QAC 13 – Staying In The Closet → https://youtu.be/NDyEAyNxoEg QAC 23 – Being Forced Out of the Closet → https://youtu.be/HStZgJ4Ewm8 snippets of conversations with my mom: → http://queerascat.tumblr.com/tagged/conversations-with-mom —————————–

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    Vesper H.

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    botched allyship & language barriers #TRP2017

    May 11, 2017

    QAC 04 – Why I Identify as Panromantic & Biromantic

    May 24, 2013

    AskAPan Week 06 – “Genderblind”ness (+DOMA comments)

    June 28, 2013
  • [Random] Thoughts,  Art[sy Fartsy],  Queer[ness]

    custom t-shirt wooo

    March 31, 2015 / No Comments

    …just spent well over an hour designing this shirt for Tokyo Pride only to get to the checkout stage and be told that CustomInk.com doesn’t ship outside of the US… foaming at the mouth right now. I DO NOT HAVE THE TIME NOR MONEY FOR THIS SHIT. ugh. *goes to bed annoyed with the world*

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    Vesper H.

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    …mmm, decided there hasn’t been enough Calcifer on this blog, so here you go.

    November 20, 2017

    QAC 24.5 Life Update: Tokyo / Asexual Pride + Outted Again + More

    June 3, 2014

    gender feels; racial trauma.

    December 6, 2017
  • [Random] Thoughts

    a convo with 10yo students (100% unedited)

    December 28, 2014 / No Comments

    student K: sensei, do you have kids? me: ….??? NO. student K: why not? me: because i don’t. do your work. student K: sensei, you’re almost 30! you have to get married! me: …..why do you remember my age and why are /you/ telling me this??? student K: *cheeky grin* because everyone gets married and has kids by 30, of course! students H & D: *nod in agreement* me: ……… *face in hand*  

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    Vesper H.

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    #TRP2017

    May 11, 2017

    Tokyo Rainbow Pride 2016 musings

    May 15, 2016

    gossip 〜 the first gay culture cafe in Tokyo

    August 24, 2016
  • [Random] Thoughts

    for the umpteenth time

    August 14, 2014 / No Comments

    …god, America is so full of crap. pisses me off…

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    Vesper H.

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    got a new hat…! W00T!

    August 9, 2014

    QAC 19.5.5 – [Life Update] Japan: The First 3 Weeks

    December 9, 2013

    them gay enbian feels

    October 16, 2016
  • [Random] Thoughts,  Gender[queer],  Japan[ese],  Queer[ness]

    rant: name change + expat pains

    July 1, 2014 / No Comments

    the desire to legally change my name to Vesper is steadily growing….. but the more i think about the actual process, the more i curse being an expat. ;( being an expat makes so many things dually difficult.

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    …so. selfies.

    February 15, 2015

    QAC 66 – Split Attraction Model: Opting Out Of Romantic Orientations || Grayromantic | Asexual

    March 12, 2018

    humbled

    July 31, 2018
  • [Random] Thoughts

    totally random Yukihari / hazardaĵo pri Yukihari

    June 26, 2014 / No Comments

    does anyone else do this and it really piss you off that you do? talk in a ridiculously high voice and use wordage you’d otherwise NEVER use because you’re: talking to an animal talking to a young child/baby working a customer service job goddamn society conditioning me to do crap i detest, making it so hard for me to NOT automatically do it. i nearly deleted this video as soon as i saw it because my voice etc really disgusts me, but then i couldn’t delete Yuki’s cuteness. ;(

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    Vesper H.

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    spotted: same-gender marriage feature on Japanese news

    October 12, 2015

    Re: …i just did something bad.

    September 10, 2017

    “”two genders””

    December 30, 2016
  • [Random] Thoughts,  YouTube[r]

    QAC 11.5 – Life Update: Life Gives You Shit, Make S’mores

    July 21, 2013 / No Comments

    my last update before moving back to America. why am i moving back to America….? life shit on me, that’s why. no, but seriously. i’m moving back “home” temporarily and will be on hiatus for a couple of weeks. bbs.

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    Vesper H.

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    December 9, 2013

    a 1.5 hour conversation with a random Nigirian

    October 12, 2017

    thank you

    November 28, 2017
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VESPER H.

YouTuber & Blogger

Queer As Cat is the blog and YouTube channel of Vesper, an American expat currently living in Japan.
reoccurring topics include: #asexuality, #nonbinary, #queerness #blackness & #mentalhealth

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