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Feedback: “just found ur videos, thank u so much for speaking up on this stuff…”
anonymous said: hey man, just found ur videos, thank u so much for speaking up on this stuff, so nice to see a nb agender person speaking on these issues. I’m just starting to figure out my identity, and honestly u have been such a blessing. ur lil white pet is p cute too, lil prickly hamster. honestly haven’t seen many voices that aren’t above like 25, and just knowing that u r nb, ace, and panrom is so relieving. so scared that this was just a phase. thanks again man, ur the best thanks, anon, for watching and for going out of your way to send me this nice message. i’m not agender myself (i’m maverique), but being agender and / or non-binary, asexual and pan certainly isn’t something that one ‘grows out of’, even if something does happen to change for you or for me later in life. i’m…
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Q&A: “I was wondering if you’re ok with people calling you “doll”, “darling” or “sweetheart”?”
anonymous said: Hii, I really love your videos(: I’m so glad I found your channel, it really helped me come to terms with my romantic orientation(aromantic) & I was wondering if you’re ok with people calling you “doll”, “darling” or “sweetheart”? Some people think it’s gender specific, like for females. I personally don’t think so, but I wanna know what you think(: hi, anon. thanks for watching my videos and for the kind message. i really appreciate it. 🙂 generally speaking, i think that there’s a lot that goes into how any person feels about being referred to by any given “pet name” (term of endearment). as you’ve noted, a term can feel gender neutral to you while at the same time feeling gendered to someone else. neither person is necessarily right or wrong, of course. as i said, a lot– everything from culture to dialect, past experiences to historical…
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Feedback: “I saw your video about confusing gender attraction with gender envy/admiration and as newly realised asexual it really hit a chord with me…”
anonymous said: I saw your video about confusing gender attraction with gender envy/admiration and as newly realised asexual it really hit a chord with me… I think this is what I’ve been experiencing a lot, seeing people and wanting to be like they are because they’re so free or happy with how they express themselves, and calling it attraction like my friends call it attraction when they see a guy and want to do him, when it’s not the same at all. ( re: this post ) yeah, attraction is really complicated because there’s so much involved… sometimes even gender envy / admiration can be a involved when one experiences attraction, but yeah. it’s also a thing in and of itself that may not be related to attraction at all. thanks for sharing your experiences, anon. 🙂
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Feedback: “I really want to thank you for introducing me to the term “maverique” because…”
anonymous said: I really want to thank you for introducing me to the term “maverique” because I think I’ve found something that describes me in a way. I’ve always felt like I wasn’t a boy or a girl, and that I was simply just myself. A person. So now I’m glad to have found a term that describes that. ;v; Thank you so much. being maverique, someone with a distinct gender that is independent from both male and female gender can be tough! everyone regardless of gender is just being themself, a person, but when you don’t even have a word to conceptualize your gender with because everything else is tied to male and / or female…. yeah. glad you found a word that works for you, anon. 🙂
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Feedback: “Your video on gender envy/admiration really spoke to me.”
anonymous said: Your video on gender envy/admiration really spoke to me. When I figured out my aroace identity and my predominate aesthetic attraction to femme people I didn’t quite understand how I had convinced myself I was straight for so long. I feel like later after I realized I was masc non binary it explained more of my assumed attraction to masc people as being more along the lines of “i want to be like them”. ( re: this post ) ah, i can relate to the “convinced myself i was straight for so long” thing. i very much feel like gender envy / admiration (among other things) played a part in me falling for the whole “straight by default” (among other) shit that society fed me from Day 1 and that i likely would have broken free of that sooner had i recognized gender envy / admiration for what it…
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Feedback: “your video on attraction & gender envy was rly interesting!”
anonymous said: your video on attraction & gender envy was rly interesting! Im also ace and nb and i think about it a lot about lately. I struggle to separate my looks-based/aesthetic attraction for masc ppl from dysphoria based envy and I thought it was just me! ( re: this post ) with 30+ people and counting on YouTube and many more elsewhere commenting that they’ve also had similar experiences, it looks like neither of us was as alone in our experiences as we’d thought. 🙂
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Feedback: “I’m so glad you posted your experience about being a black, nonbinary person who’s…”
nocombatjustwombats said: I’m so glad you posted your experience about being a black, nonbinary person who’s dealt with trauma online. All of today I’ve been feeling alone and misunderstood, and your post made me feel great. Thanks so much for putting yourself out there for kids like me. ?❤? …and reading this ask has made my night. thank you. this means a lot coming from you. <3
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Feedback: “Why are you so cool?”
anonymous said: Why are you so cool? *looks around slowly* ………………….who? me?? but thank you, anon. <3
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Feedback: “Thank you for taking a stand. I really, really hate this ‘ace-discourse’…”
justalittleperson said: Thank you for taking a stand. I really, really hate this “ace-discourse”, it hurts me a lot every time I come across it online. So thanks 🙂 Also you’re awesome! I’ve been following you for two years now and I really love what you do! thank you! although as far as taking a stand goes, i don’t feel like i’ve actually done anything… i kind of feel guilty for not being more active in my stance, but at the same time mental health and yeah… trying really hard (and failing) not to be angry all the time. sigh. i really do appreciate the kind message, though! i’ll be glad when this latest edition of ‘ace discourse’ finally dies down…
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Feedback: “I just wanted to say your presence on tumblr and YouTube has really inspired me…”
anonymous said: I just wanted to say your presence on tumblr and YouTube has really inspired me. When I’m in a better situation where I can be out in a few years, I (as a neutrois person) am eager to become a nonbinary youtuber. Your videos have really inspired me to, one day, be open about who I am and talk on subjects hat are important to me. it really is an honor, anon, to have been inspirational to you and to receive a message like this. thank you. <3 i genuinely look forward to seeing you on YouTube (and/or Tumblr) some day. i don’t take for granted the fact that i’m able to be out on the internet like i am because i know that many aren’t in such a position. i also think that wanting to talk about subjects that are important to you on YouTube is incredibly…
