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    Feedback: “TERFs are always gross to get attention from, but thank you for posting…”

    March 2, 2017 /

    anonymous said: TERFs are always gross to get attention from, but thank you for posting that so we all know what assholes to block. (re: this post) *shrugs* they’re similar to the porn bots that are common on Tumblr in more ways than one, honestly. one finds your post based on systematic keyword / tag searches and once one has latched onto a post, lots of others inevitably follow. i usually just block and (try to) ignore them as they come without saying or doing anything to give them the platform or audience that they want, but i was especially annoyed last night, so… definitely best to just block and ignore rather than engage in any way. probably should have contained my venting to Twitter, but oh well. at least someone found my venting useful.

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    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

    February 23, 2016
  • Feedback,  Japan[ese],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A not Q&A: “I had no idea that they had any sort of queer events since it seems pretty taboo in most Asian countries.”

    March 1, 2017 /

    anonymous said: I’m so sorry that terfs hijacked your post like that omg. I’m a big fan of Japanese culture and I want to visit one day and I had no idea that they had any sort of queer events since it seems pretty taboo in most Asian countries. Despite terfs soiling it, I actually learned something new so thank you so much! (re: this post) no problem, anon. no matter how taboo or even illegal it may be, there will always be queer people in any given country who do more than survive; they live their life and at times come together to support each other and enjoy each others company, just like anywhere else. it’s more a matter of how private or well-known such information happens to be and i’m more than happy to help if i can re: Japan.

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    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

    February 23, 2016
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    Feedback: “i just read your post on HuffPo and I just love it…”

    February 21, 2017 /

    inariedwards said: hi i just read your post on HuffPo and I just love it and it was lovely to see someone the same age as me to talk about being late to the non-binary thing like I was, y’know? 🙂 so anyway, this is just a hello and a thank you 🙂 have an excellent day (re: this post) hello and thanks both for reading the article and for the kind message. 🙂 indeed, it means a lot to me whenever i come across something written / made by someone my age or older pertaining to both their age and being non-binary. i wish i came across things like that more often… again, thanks for the message. have a great day yourself!

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    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

    February 23, 2016
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    Feedback: “…you are one of my favorite blogs”

    February 15, 2017 /

    anonymous said: I just returned to tumblr after a rather long hiatus and I just came across a post of yours and remembered how awesome and fantastic you are, and felt the need to inform you that you are one of my favorite blogs <3 thanks for the kind words, anon. it was nice reading them, especially at the moment as i find myself increasingly uncomfortable and anxious existing on this site.

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    February 23, 2016
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    Feedback: “I particularly relate to how you actively don’t identify as explicitly trans…”

    January 7, 2017 /

    thekunstisme said: I’ve recently discovered you on here and on youtube and I’ve been watching your videos regarding nonbinary identity and I am so glad I did! I particularly relate to how you actively don’t identify as explicitly trans because of a lot of the same issues I have with it and honestly it is just comforting to know I’m not the only person who has issues with the idea “if you’re not cis you MUST be trans” yeaahh, i’ve felt very alone in that (not identifying as trans, annoyance with the trans / cis binary) for a long time. it’s only in recent years that it’s become more obvious to me that there are a lot of people who do not explicitly identify as trans even if they aren’t cis and the response that i got to the video that i made about the trans / cis binary was a…

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    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

    February 23, 2016
  • Feedback,  Gender[queer],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “…does anything else about how gender is discussed estrange you?”

    December 6, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Branching off of your Cis-Trans binary video, does anything else about how gender is discussed estrange you? For me, settling on quoigender hasn’t been a comfortable experience, as it doesn’t provide the luxury or comfort of certainty. Coupled with ableism, aro- and acephobia, being quoigender and thus “see, not a real girl(TM) after all” makes gender itself alienating. I can’t “celebrate my gender identity” when I not convinced that I even have one, and suggesting that I should is insulting. ( re: this video / blog post ) there’s quite a lot surrounding gender and how it’s often discussed that bothers and / or alienates me, including the assumption that everyone knows their gender or even has one at all. that said, as someone who does have a gender, knows what it is and is comfortable in it, i admit that i am privileged in that regard and thus am…

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    February 23, 2016
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    Q&A not Q&A: “So there’s a book called Ashlesha by Jer Keene that has an aro/ace character…”

    December 5, 2016 / No Comments

    libentianimo said: So there’s a book called Ashlesha by Jer Keene that has an aro/ace character. As in, they EXPLICITLY say the word aromantic and asexual to describe him, and explain what aromantic and asexual mean. Nearly all of the characters are queer-some are bi, some are gay, some are undefined, there’s a nonbinary trans character, and the majority(including the main character) are people of colour. The plot is amazing, too-scifi meets political conspiracies meets action thriller. It’s absolutely AMAZING. this is the book, i believe? it does sound interesting and has a lot of positive reviews on Amazon. thank you for the recommendation. 🙂

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    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

    February 23, 2016
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    Feedback: “Non binary opened my world but even then it is hard to fit between the cis and trans world…”

    November 12, 2016 /

    unepetitecrise said: Been following you for a while but just got around to watching your vlogs on being non binary/or trans ect. I was similar…until I heard of non-binary I just felt a but lost? Non binary opened my world but even then it is hard to fit between the cis and trans world. I was one of those people, I am ashamed to say, who was very ‘don’t call me cis cause you can’t call me that’ and it came across as transphobic but I now realise it was bc no label fits. So important to see someone explain it. TY! (re: these vlogs [ 1 ] + [ 2 ]) thanks for watching and for the kind message. 🙂 it’s definitely a topic that i’d love to see more discussion about and awareness of. imho, there’s a significant number of people who are overlooked, silenced and / or…

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    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

    February 23, 2016
  • [A]sexuality,  Feedback,  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Feedback: “From Anon coming out to friend who might know…”

    November 10, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: From Anon coming out to friend who might know: So I came out to her and it went really well. She made it causal for me, lol. She didn’t say if she knew or not. I feel so much better now. Now to work on coming out as nonbinary lol. Thank u, Vesper. 🙂 ( re: anon from these posts, perhaps?) thank you for coming back (again) and sharing the good news, anon. so glad to hear that things went well for you. 🙂 her response to you coming out this time is really encouraging, i think. hopefully she will respond in an equally awesome way if / when you come out to her again. either way, best wishes!

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    May 7, 2016
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    Feedback: “just found ur videos, thank u so much for speaking up on this stuff…”

    November 7, 2016 /

    anonymous said: hey man, just found ur videos, thank u so much for speaking up on this stuff, so nice to see a nb agender person speaking on these issues. I’m just starting to figure out my identity, and honestly u have been such a blessing. ur lil white pet is p cute too, lil prickly hamster. honestly haven’t seen many voices that aren’t above like 25, and just knowing that u r nb, ace, and panrom is so relieving. so scared that this was just a phase. thanks again man, ur the best thanks, anon, for watching and for going out of your way to send me this nice message. i’m not agender myself (i’m maverique), but being agender and / or non-binary, asexual and pan certainly isn’t something that one ‘grows out of’, even if something does happen to change for you or for me later in life. i’m…

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VESPER H.

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Queer As Cat is the blog and YouTube channel of Vesper, an American expat currently living in Japan.
reoccurring topics include: #asexuality, #nonbinary, #queerness #blackness & #mentalhealth

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