Q&A: “I had someone who was a POC tell me [maverique] was appropriative of POC cultures…”
anonymous said: This is probably a complex issue, so apologies in advance if I have to send multiple asks, but I’m white l, and recently I have been identifying as Maverique, it is the best way I’ve found to describe my gender and it sits very well for me, but I had someone who was a POC tell me it was appropriative of POC cultures and was basically just ‘white people taking it and making it okay to id as a third gender’ and, while I disagreed with them and it was very upsetting, (pt 1) I know it is not my place to argue with them over what is and isn’t cultural appropriation. I’m not really sure what to do, because they told me it would be racist of me to continue id’ing as maverique and that I should use neutrois or something similar instead, but neutral terms aren’t…
Feedback: “Thank you for defending us aporagender people…”
anonymous said: Hey! Thank you for defending us aporagender people even if it’s not your problem! Really, thank you so much. It felt like some posts were attacking us directly. Many of us are almost incapable of trying to fight back because the nature of the posts were becoming rather violent and, personally, they made me afraid of coming out as my gender in public. ( re: this post? ) no need to thank me, anon. i’m just sorry that the incessant ‘discourse’ (to use le mot à la mode) that always seems to come and go on this site regarding maverique / aporagender / aliagender and “third gender” has caused you and others so much distress… whether i be aporagender myself or not, it is still very much my problem and has been since before either “maverique” or “aporagender” were coined. furthermore, as someone who has weathered multiple reiterations…
Q&A: “i’m a little confused why you tagged something as pangender which also has problematic implications…”
anonymous said: so i was reading your blog and since you are aware of the problematic connotations of third gender i’m a little confused why you tagged something as pangender which also has problematic implications without knowing what post you’re referring to, it’s hard for me to really tell you why i tagged any particular post that way. that said, if i do a tag search on my blog, the last post that i tagged with #pangender was an ask from 2015 in which an anon asked me how i feel about the term pangender, which you may be interested in reading, anon. either way, it’s a given that i would tag that post #pangender, just as i’m going to do with this post. i’m going to assume you ran into some old post of mine from 2014 or older since aside from the aforementioned ask (and the related response posts), that…
Feedback: “I was the anon that tried to claim aliagender was racist, aporagender not…”
anonymous said: I was the anon that tried to claim aliagender was racist, aporagender not. In the past, I had seen a number of blogs call aliagender a “racist gender that was basically third gender”. I chose to follow that notion without further research. That only really helps to contribute to the misconceptions at hand, let alone the fact the topic wasn’t mine to speak about in the first place. Thank you for calling me out on this; I am sorry for for my actions, and I will keep this in mind in the future. anon, i really appreciate you taking the time not only to read my post, but to respond to it like this as well. thank you! you most certainly aren’t the only one who saw the claims made against aliagender and who, with the best of intentions, sided with them and spread them. however, as of…
re: maverique, aporagender, aliagender and third gender
this post was triggered by three posts (tw: violence) posted recently by @nonbinary-support arguing against the use of aporagender, which has in turn triggered even more posts about race and gender.
Q&A not Q&A: “…the first definition of [aporagender] was literally “same as third gender but white people can use too”…”
anonymous said: Not trying to start an argument by any means, but I think the reason that person said aporagender (I’ve probably spelt that wrong) is racist, is because the first definition of it was literally “same as third gender but white people can use too” or something along those lines, which some see as racist, because something that’s the same as third gender, considering the terms history, shouldn’t be for white people. Sorry if this sounded argumentative thats not my aim at all ? having kept a watchful eye on the term aporagender pretty much since around the time of its coinage (because it was in fact coined around the exact same time that i coined maverique) i can safely say that i have never seen the word defined nor described in that way. as such, i am extremely skeptical that that is the reason why the anon is…
Q&A not Q&A: ” Aporagender is an appropriative term used/coined by white people…”
anonymous said: On the aporagender topic. Aporagender is an appropriative term used/coined by white people who were sad they couldn’t use the term third gender. I’d advise you to use maverique, which is basically the same, but coined by a PoC and thus not appropriative. dear anon, care to explain what, exactly, is being appropriated by aporagender? the word itself isn’t appropriative, so what is it that’s being appropriated? do you seriously think that people of color are the only people who have the right to coin words for their own gender if it happens to be completely outside of the male-female binary?? also, you do realize that “third gender” is a word coined and used by white colonialist and anthropologists to indiscriminately and non-consensually label the genders of non-white people that they deemed “deviant” from “the norm”? that “third gender” itself is a white colonialist term, not a ‘POC term’?? yes, it’s a…
