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  • [Random] Thoughts,  Black[ness],  Japan[ese]

    adventures in Japanese TV: “haafu”

    September 1, 2016 / No Comments

    aaahhh, more annoying Japanese TV. despite what i said (in Japanese) while letting off steam livetweeting on Twitter, i know it’s not fair of me to expect anyone, let alone this guy (Jun Soejima, an actor / “talent” btw), to react any certain way or educate the people around him on behalf of other black people in Japan. i really don’t actually expect that or anything else of him, despite my whining, but it does admittedly annoy me when people on Japanese TV just laugh off some really shitty, problematic stuff that people say or do to them, be it re: racial issues, trans issues, or anything else. they’re in a difficult situation and have all kind of things to consider when they react to something, whereas i can huff and puff at the TV saying all the choice words i like without consequence. i get that…. but meh. it was…

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  • [Random] Thoughts

    “”summer vacation””

    August 20, 2016 / No Comments

    [ video: a soundless and unfiltered 1 minute compilation from tonight’s 1 hour firework show shot from my apartment window! ] tomorrow marks the end of my one week “summer vacation” and i’m ridiculously bummed about it, but at least it’s ending with a bang. D; tomorrow’s agenda: go see the Ghostbusters movie since it’s finally come out in Japan. or maybe X-Men: Apocalypse? or maybe both. the real agenda is to just not care about the world for a day. wish me luck.

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  • [Random] Thoughts,  Gender[queer]

    mmmm… so.

    August 18, 2016 / No Comments

    i received some comments on my latest video asking about what some feel to be a binary between cis and trans identities and i was immediately like YESSSSSSSSS and dug up an old post from 2014 where i halfassedly whined about it. why haven’t i less halfassedly whined about it more since then?? anyway, now i’ve typed up this longass rant / PSA / whatever that i’m going to post tomorrow or the day after along with a YouTube video of the same because i feel like both audiences (and they are very different audiences) should see me whinge and… i’m just staring at the post now wondering how much backlash it and the video are going to get me. ugh. ugh. sigh.

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  • [Random] Thoughts

    random convo with mom #1996

    August 13, 2016 / No Comments

    me: btw, dad kinda sorta found out that i’m non-binary, queer and asexual but i still don’t know exactly how much he even knows or if he even understands what those words mean. and i dont think he knows that you know, but just thought i’d let you know that he kinda sorta knows something in case he comes to you about it. mom: Well he hasn’t said anything. Ok me: if he does mention it to you… let me know? he always talks to you more than he talks to me, so he’ll probably talk to you about it eventually. mom: Maybe. He may think that I will freak out. me: ….to be fair, you did lol… but yeah, he might not come to you because he doesn’t know that you already know. fair enough. but on the off chance that he does, i’d like to know. you dont have to tell me what he says…

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  • 『[4コマ]☆AセクシュアルとAce(エース)☆』
    [A]sexuality,  [Random] Thoughts,  Japan[ese],  Queer[ness]

    『[4コマ]☆AセクシュアルとAce(エース)☆』

    July 27, 2016 / 1 Comment

    once again i randomly came across another one of Chii’s 4-koma comic strips about asexuality on Twitter and my reaction to seeing it has me feeling guilty and torn. ;( for those who don’t speak Japanese, the comic introduces the term “ace” (slang for “asexual”) to Japanese readers and then explains how it’s connected to aces in playing cards. it also introduces readers to the concept / association that’s been floating around English-speaking ace communities of each suite being associated with specific orientations / identities. in the comic, it’s explained as: ace of hearts: romantic asexuals (known as “nonsexuals” in Japan) ace of spades: aromantic asexuals (known as “asexuals” in Japan) ace of diamonds: demisexuals and demiromantic asexuals ace of clubs: gray asexuals and grayromantic asexuals before i start ranting going on and on about ‘nothing’, i want to point out that i’m happy that “ace” is being introduced here in Japanese. no conflicting feelings there.…

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  • [A]sexuality,  Mental [Un]health,  Queer[ness]

    that time i did nothing: assumed consent & retraction thereof

    July 11, 2016 / 1 Comment

    content warning: non-graphic description of a questionable consent situation; non-graphic talk of sex, rape & trauma; self-gaslighting. this is the third and final post in a series of posts in which i’m writing about my personal experiences with sexual abuse / violence and consent issues. the first post on sexual abuse / violence can be found here. the second post on consent issues and asexuality can be found here. this post is about something that happened during a past relationship in which consent is / was questionable and the ramifications of it. consent. not a topic that i’m at all well informed about, but about which i’m writing a lot at the moment as i attempt to unpack and navigate things from my past that i have up until this point avoided doing. as i mentioned in my previous post, i’ve been in two long-term relationships spanning 9 years in total, 5…

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  • [A]sexuality,  Mental [Un]health,  Queer[ness]

    reflecting back on years of consent without information about asexuality

    July 11, 2016 / 1 Comment

    content warning: mentions of sex and abuse; talk of consent issues. this is the second of what has now become three posts that i’m writing about my personal experiences with sexual abuse / violence and consent issues, the first of which can be found here. this post focuses on how my ability to consent may or may not have been affected by not knowing about the existence of asexuality prior to consenting to sex in past relationships. even though there are those who insist that consent is as simple as “yes” or “no,” that there is no gray area involved– you either consented or you didn’t– for lots of people consent can be more complicated than that. in my time on Tumblr, various posts have come across my dashboard on the topic of consent and/or agency, specifically in the context of being asexual. sometimes when i read one of those posts, some…

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  • [A]sexuality,  [Random] Thoughts,  Queer[ness]

    that feel when

    June 23, 2016 / 1 Comment

    everyone outside of the ace community automatically reads your bi identity as ‘bisexual’ and everyone within the ace community automatically reads your bi identity as ‘biromantic’ because everyone assumes forgets that a person can just simply be bi or that there’s more to a person’s sexuality than just -sexual / -romantic.

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  • [Random] Thoughts,  Japan[ese],  Mental [Un]health,  Queer[ness]

    Pulse.

    June 13, 2016 / No Comments

    …as if dealing with the news itself and the media’s handling of it isn’t enough, i’m going to have to go through the week (and for however long after) listening to lots of opinions and commentary on the event that i would really rather do without, all while keeping my own feelings and opinion in check because, you know. that’s the nature of my job. somehow i’m going to have to muster up the energy to up my game with my Everything’s Okay face this week. …i’m exhausted already just thinking about it. ugh.

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  • [Random] Thoughts,  Art[sy Fartsy]

    2015 in selfies

    December 17, 2015 / No Comments

    as 2015 comes to an end, it’s time for my annual photo dump. i usually post my annual photo dump elsewhere on the web (i have far too many blogs), but as i was tagged on here by @bi-gray, i figure i’ll post the selfie portion of it on this blog for once. i am going to ignore the rules of the Tumblr meme, though, and post more than 6 photos. i also won’t be tagging anyone because i suck at that. instead, i welcome everyone to take the chance to reflect upon the past year through selfies or photos in general. 🙂 for me, 2015 was a year of working on my left sleeve (which took 9 months to complete), parking myself in various cafes for hours, doodling random stuff, embracing smartphone photography à la Instagram and continuing to learn more about myself while learning to be proud of…

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VESPER H.

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Queer As Cat is the blog and YouTube channel of Vesper, an American expat currently living in Japan.
reoccurring topics include: #asexuality, #nonbinary, #queerness #blackness & #mentalhealth

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