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  • [Random] Thoughts,  Japan[ese],  Mental [Un]health

    willpower, sweat, and tears

    January 30, 2020 / No Comments

    since returning to the US from Japan back in March, i haven't been on social media, YouTube, or this blog as much as i'd have liked. the international move itself aside, i've had my hands full juggling emotional / compassion fatigue...

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    Vesper H.

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    …and here we are. again. (cw: homophobia, nsfw)

    July 17, 2018

    my soon-to-be goblin

    September 12, 2017

    “too butch.”

    April 29, 2019
  • [Random] Thoughts,  Black[ness],  Queer[ness]

    “too butch.”

    April 29, 2019 / 8 Comments

    as the clock counts down to me sitting in a hairstylist's chair to get my hair chopped off—a clock that started its countdown years ago in my head, but has only recently been given a definitive calendar date of May 18th, 2019—i've on-and-off made an effort to help my mom 'get over it.'

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    Vesper H.

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    allo by default: hypocrisy in “aspec” spaces

    February 25, 2017

    chronic long-term memory problems…

    July 4, 2018

    a 1.5 hour conversation with a random Nigirian

    October 12, 2017
  • [A]sexuality,  [Random] Thoughts,  Queer[ness]

    IF {subcommunity building} THEN {…?}

    March 11, 2019 / 8 Comments

    ...wouldn't it be great if there was more of a sense of intersectional community, comradery, and identity among aces who are also bi? among aces who are also gay? among aces who are also sans romantic orientation? among aces who are simultaneously a part of any other minority community (sexuality-based or not) in addition to also being ace...?

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    Vesper H.

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    QAC 24 – Labels: Why They’re Important + Why I Use Them

    March 17, 2014

    “the ace community goes overboard with words?” i.e. word vomitted “nah”

    April 5, 2018

    🎬 QAC 79 – The Neverending Queer-y: My Queer Ace Journey || LGBT YouTube & COPPA

    January 4, 2020
  • [A]sexuality,  Gender[queer],  Japan[ese],  Queer[ness]

    Ie Uru Onna Gyakushuu S2E3: “A home that is accepting of all [kinds of] love?!”

    January 24, 2019 / No Comments

    the video above is the commercial for season 2 episode 3 of the popular Japanese TV drama 家売るオンナ逆襲 /“Ie Uru Onna Gyakushuu” (”Your Home Is My Business! Counterstrike”), which just aired tonight...

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    Vesper H.

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    an example of intersectional acephobia if ever there was one…

    December 16, 2015

    QAC 72 – Outted To Religious Mom: 4 Years Later | HRT | Non-Binary Relationship || #ItGetsBetter?

    September 18, 2018

    sigh.

    July 23, 2017
  • [A]sexuality,  [Random] Thoughts,  Black[ness],  Gender[queer],  Queer[ness]

    the ‘Sin City’ asexual

    January 10, 2019 / 6 Comments

    sometimes i think about how growing up in Las Vegas has affected me. usually this is triggered by something reminding me that growing up listening to house & trance music on the radio isn't exactly common, or when i happen to have an occasion-- for whatever reason-- to question my own apparent insensitivity to public displays of nudity, sexual innuendo, etc. even when it comes to more mundane things...

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    Vesper H.

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    Antiblackness and Binarism: Grindr in Japan

    January 6, 2018

    QAC 72 – Outted To Religious Mom: 4 Years Later | HRT | Non-Binary Relationship || #ItGetsBetter?

    September 18, 2018

    QAC 37 – Forced Out of the Closet: 1.5 Years Later (Non-Binary Asexual)

    June 16, 2015
  • [Random] Thoughts,  Queer[ness]

    This Is Fine.

    July 14, 2018 / No Comments

    in 2015, i wrote a random, word vomit of a post about being “WhenTheStarsAlignHyperRo[mantic]” while offhandedly reflecting back on what little ‘data’ i had to work off of in trying to figure out my own experience of romantic attraction (or lack thereof). it was the first second (in so far as i remember) time i had questioned not being (allo)romantic outside of my head (& journal) while shrugging off identifying as being on the aromantic spectrum.

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    Vesper H.

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    カルシファー、お帰り。 Welcome Home, Calcifer.

    September 17, 2017

    “the faces of Vesper”

    June 8, 2014

    identity politics leave little room for agency; a thought.

    July 21, 2017
  • [Random] Thoughts,  Mental [Un]health

    chronic long-term memory problems…

    July 4, 2018 / 1 Comment

    …is almost like living life like a computer with only a rudimentary, low capacity Hard Disk Drive dedicated to storing what you (might) need in the Here And Now or Imminent Future (short-term memories) and nothing but Random Access Memory for all the rest (long-term memories).

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    Tokyo Rainbow Pride 2016 musings

    May 15, 2016

    Antiblackness and Binarism: Grindr in Japan

    January 6, 2018

    “”summer vacation””

    August 20, 2016
  • [Random] Thoughts,  YouTube[r]

    5 years and counting…

    May 14, 2018 / 1 Comment

    it just occurred to me (while porting over more old posts) that Queer As Cat, the YouTube channel, has been a thing for 5 years now as of May 11th. hmm……

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    Vesper H.

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    #SpiritDay 2016

    October 19, 2016

    本の紹介:「Xジェンダーって何?」

    October 4, 2016

    pen. ink. paper: journaling as self-care

    January 27, 2019
  • [A]sexuality,  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “Is it just me, or has the definition [of agender] shifted?”

    August 23, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said: I’ve got a question about agender. I was sifting through some of your old posts and noticed that you’ve previously framed agender as including “doesn’t have any gender identity at all.” Is it just me, or has that definition shifted? I use quoigender over agender because I’ve always gotten this vibe from the nonbinary community(ies) that agender is a gender identity, like how asexuality is a sexual orientation. (Incidentally, I hope that you’re hiatus has helped you recover.) hello anon. thanks for the kind wishes and sorry for taking so long to get to your ask. i’m guessing that the old post that you are referencing might be this one? either way, i feel like everything that i said in that post still holds true today and not much has changed…? the non-binary community in general– and indeed, many agender people themselves– still has / have a tendency…

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    Vesper H.

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    QAC 31 – Relationships… Meh.

    November 17, 2014

    「やがて君になる」/ “Yagate Kimi ni Naru”: an aro/ace coded, sapphic ‘love story’…?

    October 8, 2018

    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

    February 23, 2016
  • [A]sexuality,  [Random] Thoughts,  Queer[ness]

    ….mmm, you know.

    August 4, 2017 / No Comments

    i’d make a quasi-linkspam of a post about the many times and ways that i’ve had aro aces tell me that i can’t do / say / talk about / feel / understand something because i’m “romantic”, but more than likely i’d get accused of being arophobic instead of, you know, pointing out a legitimate problem within the aro ace community that ought to be addressed.

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    Vesper H.

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    fuck your Oppression Olympics

    September 15, 2016

    ?Tokyo Rainbow Pride 2017: Parade & Ace Meetup

    April 29, 2017

    QAC 11 – Growing Up Ace (Asexual)

    July 21, 2013
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VESPER H.

YouTuber & Blogger

Queer As Cat is the blog and YouTube channel of Vesper, an American expat currently living in Japan.
reoccurring topics include: #asexuality, #nonbinary, #queerness #blackness & #mentalhealth

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  • literal “social distancing” from the ace community April 1, 2020
  • legalized weed in America: one of many chips on my Black shoulder March 7, 2020
  • willpower, sweat, and tears January 30, 2020
  • 🎬 QAC 79 – The Neverending Queer-y: My Queer Ace Journey || LGBT YouTube & COPPA January 4, 2020
  • #YouTubeIsOverParty: COPPA & The Hypocrisy of YouTube December 15, 2019

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