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    Feedback: “you know sometimes i don’t go on your blog for a long time and then…”

    September 9, 2016 /

    anonymous said: you know sometimes i don’t go on your blog for a long time and then i see you on my dash again and i read your posts or watch your videos and i think damn. you’re so intelligent and charismatic, i mean you express yourself so well and your ideas are so interesting. thank you for being in this world, you rock. ……..i’ve literally stared at this ask for a good 20 minutes and all i can say is: *incredibly grateful yet uncomfortable and doesn’t know what to do because Unwarranted Kindness noises* <3

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    Vesper H.

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    Feedback: “is it true that youre the one that made the term maverique..? If so, then.. thank you so so so much..”

    August 31, 2016 /

    yukiwolf5 said: Uhm, is it true that youre the one that made the term maverique..? If so, then.. thank you so so so much.. i know im probably way late but, i didnt know until now who coined it so.. thank you.. maverique is exactly how i feel towards my gender and i just, when my friend came across that term and showed it to me i literally cried. Because its just… exactly how i feel about gender.. not male not female just me. And the flag is so pleasing to look at too… so… thank you ;w; youre my hero ☆♡☆ ….aaaaaahh, kindness overload. i seriously don’t know how to respond to this because i genuinely never know how to respond to such kindness… thank you so much for this incredibly kind ask message. it will forever mean a lot to me to hear that a word i coined…

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    Vesper H.

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    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

    February 23, 2016
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    Feedback: “You’re a huge inspiration to me and someone I really look up to…”

    August 22, 2016 /

    we-who-sleep-and-dream-alone said: Not really a question but more or less a statement. You’re a huge inspiration to me and someone I really look up to. Most adults in my life don’t talk about gender and gender identity the way you do and it makes me feel really good. ….i am at a loss for words, both because your words are so incredibly kind but also because of my own shitty headspace right now. thank you for this extremely kind message. to say that i’m flattered to be of any help or inspiration to you whatsoever is an understatement, so thank you. <3

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    Vesper H.

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    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

    February 23, 2016
  • Feedback,  Gender[queer],  Queer[ness]

    Feedback: “Thank you so much for your “let’s talk” post because these are things…”

    August 20, 2016 /

    anonymous said: Thank you so much for your “let’s talk” post because these are things I definitely have never thought about that way and you opened my eyes to that and I will try to keep all of it in mind. I also wanted to specifically thank you for writing it out in a post as well as having the youtube video because for me that’s a major accessibility thing and I never would have been able to comprehend it the same way by watching/listening to a video. (re: this post) no problem, anon! thank you for the feedback. 🙂 i’m trying to be more mindful of accessibility by adding captions to my videos (going to caption the latest video tonight or tomorrow), but at the same time i’m aware that even with captions a video can still be inaccessible or less accessible to people… plus some people just prefer…

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    Vesper H.

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    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

    February 23, 2016
  • Feedback,  Gender[queer],  Q&A

    Q&A: “I’m the anon reading lexicons in order to find a word…”

    August 2, 2016 /

    anonymous said: I’m the anon reading lexicons in order to find a word to describe myself. Thank you very much for taking so much time for me, for your long, very interesting and helpful answer. In fact, I was only looking for a single word because everybody here seems to have one (they say ‘hi I’m this or that’) and it was driving me crazy that there wasn’t one for me. I thought everyone but me had a word that suited completely. You put my mind at ease. You’re right I should find my own combination of words. (re: this post) no problem, anon. thanks for coming back and responding. 🙂 even though it may feel like everyone has a particular word / identity / label that describes them completely, rest assured that that totally is not the case. not everyone is able to (or even wants to) put a…

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    Vesper H.

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    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

    February 23, 2016
  • [A]sexuality,  Feedback,  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Feedback: “Thanks for the heteroromantic homosexual flag and thank you for your responses…”

    July 31, 2016 /

    anonymous said: Thanks for the heteroromantic homosexual flag and thank you for your responses and other people for their nice comments when this other tumblr user was more or less telling I’m not normal. It took more than 30 years before I could name my orientation and I was so happy when I was finally could do it. So it’s not nice to be insulted by someone who wasn’t asked a thing. Sorry if you were annoyed because of me and sorry for my bad English, it’s not my mother tongue. And again THANKS. (re: this post) no problem, anon, and no worries. i’m more than happy to help when i can and your English is great. i was annoyed at the other person, not you. 🙂

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    Vesper H.

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  • [A]sexuality,  Feedback,  Mental [Un]health,  Q&A

    Feedback: “Thank you so much for writing “that time i did nothing: assumed consent & retraction thereof”…”

    July 16, 2016 /

    anonymous said: Thank you so much for writing “that time i did nothing: assumed consent &amp; retraction thereof”. I was in the same situation with a then boyfriend several times and I don’t know how to classify/ deal with it. Your internal monologue was so familiar. It’s good to know that I’m not the only one struggling with this. Thanks again for posting this and I hope you’re doing well. Kindest regards (re: this post) thank you for the kind message, anon. posting that post helped me realize that i’m far from the only person struggling with navigating an experience like that and it really does mean a lot to know that you’re not the only one. you writing this message adds to that, so thank you again and all the best to you as well.

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  • Feedback,  Japan[ese]

    Feedback: “I think a good translation for お疲れ様 is “Good work”?”

    June 27, 2016 /

    anonymous said: Ty for your ace posts. I think a good translation for お疲れ様 is “Good work”? as I see that that usually matches most contexts. And also, お疲れ様 to you too for your work on ace activism. I appreciate it. it can be translated as “good work,” definitely. it’s just that that translation still lacks some of the nuances that i wish i could convey in English… sigh! either way, いいえ、こちらこそお疲れ様でした。thanks, but also same to you (and everyone else out there). 🙂

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    Vesper H.

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    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

    February 23, 2016
  • Feedback,  Gender[queer],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Feedback: “I just want to say I found some of your videos on YouTube and some of them have really resonated with me…”

    June 21, 2016 /

    anonymous said: I just want to say I found some of your videos on YouTube and some of them have really resonated with me. I’ve always identified as bi, and was identifying as neutrois but sort of on the fence about it being the right term, and upon watching one of your videos awhile ago explaining your experience while identifying as neutrois and why you coined maverique, I’ve started to realize maverique may fit me better as well. So yeah, I just want to say thanks for doing what you do, and say keep doing it! thanks for not only watching my videos, but also for taking the time out of your day to come and send me this really nice message, anon. i appreciate the feedback & encouragement and am honored to hear that my neutrois / maverique video resonated with you. 🙂 keep being awesome yourself!

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    Vesper H.

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    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

    February 23, 2016
  • Feedback,  Mental [Un]health,  Q&A

    Q&A not Q&A: “you’re personality REALLY reminds me of me. I’m also what you call “apathetic as hell.””

    June 19, 2016 /

    anonymous said: you’re personality REALLY reminds me of me. I’m also what you call “apathetic as hell.” I just think you can catch more flies with honey. People shut down if you automatically start tearing them down. You don’t build yourself (&amp; others) up by tearing someone (&amp; others) down. PLUS you’ll NEVER get them to understand what you’re talking about if you attack them back because they’ll be in their defensive mindset. It’s effective in helping people evolve. It’s also important to pick your fights. If you’re constantly fighting not only are you going to drain yourself but people will start to take your fighting level as a basic level of how you react to things and they’ll take you less seriously. Also some people do screw up and don’t realize it; informing them on the issue and helping them improve themselves is better than just throwing them under…

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VESPER H.

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Queer As Cat is the blog and YouTube channel of Vesper, an American expat currently living in Japan.
reoccurring topics include: #asexuality, #nonbinary, #queerness #blackness & #mentalhealth

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