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Feedback: “Just wanted to drop by and say that I love your youtube channel!”

January 6, 2018 /

anonymous said: Just wanted to drop by and say that I love your youtube channel! I really like the way that you narrate topics, and put them into a very plain, digestible, and easy to understand manner. When coming out to friends I have actually linked them to some of your videos for better definition and clarity. Please keep up the good work. Wishing you all the best in 2018 ? thanks for dropping by and leaving such a kind message. i really am flattered that you’ve found my channel helpful enough to have shared my videos with others. happy new year and best wishes to you too. 🙂

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November 28, 2017 /

anonymous said: I love your cat

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Feedback: “I’m really glad you’re here…”

November 28, 2017 /

anonymous said: I’m really glad you’re here, and for your blog. Thank you for sharing your work and ideas with all of us. you’re too kind, anon. thank you. <3

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Feedback: “As a closeted nonbinary person, your videos always hit close to home for me.”

October 15, 2017 /

anonymous said: As a closeted nonbinary person, your videos always hit close to home for me. It seems whenever I’m confused, questioning, or concerned about something, I’ll check your channel and you’ve recently released a video on the topic. Your vlogs really just strike a chord with me, and I wanted to thank you for making them. thank you so much, anon, for taking the time out of your day to send me this incredibly kind message. i’ll never cease to be amazed at how relatable people find my random musings, rants and monologues and i’ll never cease being motivated to continue recording them thanks to people like you who are kind enough to remind me that they matter to more than just me. <3 thanks again, anon. i really appreciate your kindness.

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Q&A: “How exactly would I ever come out [as asexual] to my parents?”

October 15, 2017 /

anonymous said: This is random but haiii , i just wanted to stop by and say you are amazing.. You helped me a lot with my sexuality(Asexual) and I would like to thank you ^~^ but I do have one question.. How exactly would I ever come out to my parents? ohai, anon. thanks for the kind words. 🙂 also, sorry about my slow response, especially if you were hoping for a reply ahead of National Coming Out Day. i can’t tell you how exactly to come out to your parents. the question of if you should even come out at all and if yes, when? how? where? etc is entirely up to you. not everyone comes out to their parents for various reasons and it’s important that you give due consideration as to whether you should come out to yours or not, not just how to do it. remember that…

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Feedback: “I have been enjoying your thoughts on visibility!”

September 22, 2017 / No Comments

adventures-in-asexuality I have been enjoying your thoughts on visibility! I’ve often thought of it as kind of the ability to access narratives about yourself (or about other people, I guess, but my priorities here are inherently centered on people being able to find narratives about themselves, or about who they want to be) – a bit broader than just fiction narratives, including things like healthcare narratives or relative narratives or what you have. I have said the word ‘narrative’ too much. ( re: this post ) thanks for sharing your thoughts. 🙂 i’ve actually never re+ally thought of narratives or the ability to access them as visibility, but as representation…. but now that you mention it, i guess it totally is a form of visibility, just not in the way that i usually think of visibility… …which i guess is part of the frustration that i have with usage of…

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Feedback: “I’m sure there are plenty of other trans people who want to be visibly trans…”

September 22, 2017 / No Comments

anonymous said: On the visibility thing- I am a trans person who wants to be proudly and visibly trans, mostly because I’m genderqueer and there isn’t really a way to “pass” as gq, so being seen as cis is automatically misgendering me. So I try to be as “nonpassing” and obviously trans/queer as possible. And I’m sure there are plenty of other trans people who want to be visibly trans, otherwise stuff like trans pride shirts and such wouldn’t exist, no? Or am I misunderstanding what you mean by visibility? ( re: this post ) i agree with you, anon, that there are a lot of people who want to visibly subvert and / or defy the assumption that they are cis a man / woman or otherwise a binary gender that they are not– especially among those for whom (as you pointed out) “passing” as their gender (or lack thereof) is…

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Re: Re: “”Visibility””

September 19, 2017 / 1 Comment

oodlenoodleroodle: queerascat: for the longest time it struck me as odd, the way that the LGBT community at large upholds “visibility” as some kind of goal or ideal to be fought for. it wasn’t until recent years that i actually stopped and thought about it enough to realize why reference to and usage of “visibility” in this way bothers me so much. as someone who has always been and will always be hypervisible because of their race, it baffles me when people advocate for visibility as if visibility is what we all want; as if visibility is even a means to getting what we all want. this upholding of visibility as something important for all of us to fight for seems grossly negligent of the fact that some of us are already more visible than others and that that very visibility is part of what has gotten some of us bullied,…

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Feedback: “it is so fucking cool to know that there is a resource for me to learn about queer language and culture in [Japanese]…”

September 1, 2017 /

anonymous said: Can I just say that as someone who’s currently learning Japanese in school, it is so fucking cool to know that there is a resource for me to learn about queer language and culture in this new language. glad to be of help, anon. 🙂

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Feedback: “Thank you for being visible and thank you for all your thoughts you share with others…”

August 31, 2017 /

V.I. said: Thank you for being visible and thank you for all your thoughts you share with others. I watched every single of your videos and I am so grateful for everything you do and say. I can relate to so many things you talk about and everything you say makes so much sense. Thank you for being there and for helping so many people. I am sure that there are a lot of us who remain silent just because we are scared to be out, but I would like you to know that we are here and support you. Best, V. I. …..i’m speechless, V. I.. thank you. thank you so much for not only watching one or three of my videos– but for watching all of them?! thank you for coming here to share your thoughts with me, as well as for your touching words of support. thank…

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