Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”
Hi, I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing–I’m aroflux, have a qpp and’ve been miffed about the same things. Like, it’s great the term exists, but I feel invalidated by many promotions of it. Love’s not a binary.
yeah… i wish people would think of attractions more like this:
instead of isolating certain types of attraction and positioning them on a linear scale or even spectrum, as people often do.
that said, the above is the 15min product of my sleep deprived brain functioning after 3am on 4hrs of sleep. it’s not thought out and thus is full of holes and problems, so please don’t take it too seriously zzz…
edit: someone asked me to define these types of attraction, so i gave it a shot.
disclaimer: please bear in mind that these are my own personal definitions as of now (2.24.2016). i do not claim to be an expert on this or anything else and others may disagree with what i’ve written here. hell, i may disagree with it after someone reblogs this with commentary. either way, if my personal definitions conflict with your own, please don’t take it personally. this isn’t me telling you that yours are wrong.
Types of Attraction
aesthetic attraction: feeling drawn to someone based on appearance, often due to keen appreciation of or interest in that person’s appearance which is not necessarily sexual (or anything else) in nature.
sensual attraction: feeling drawn to touch or be physically close to someone in a way that isn’t necessarily sexual (or anything else) in nature.
platonic attraction: feeling drawn to someone in a way that makes you desire familiarity with them. sometimes involving emotional intimacy, while at the same time not necessarily sexual or anything else.
sexual attraction: feeling drawn to someone in a way that triggers a desire to have sexual interaction with that person. often sensual in nature, however other types of attraction may or may not be involved.
alterous attraction: feeling drawn to someone in a way that makes you desire familiarity and intimacy with them that is generally emotional in nature, but not necessarily sexual nor anything else.
romantic attraction: feeling drawn to someone in a way that makes you desire intimacy with them; intimacy that in some way or another involves infatuation, limerence, a desire for interdependency and/or other social notions of “romance.”