Q&A: “do you happen to know of a gender label/type that could be described loosely as…”

lymeandcoconut said:

Hi there. I just started following you so I apologize if you’ve already addressed this, but do you happen to know of a gender label/type that could be described loosely as “I feel like at my core I’m agender, but I wear a female/male ‘suit'”? It’s hard to put into words, but I feel as if female is an outfit I wear, a role I play, but who I am underneath is agender. Have you heard of something like that?

i’m afraid that i haven’t come across a gender that fits the description of what you’re looking for. i have seen people talk about “performing” a gender that differs from their actual gender (for example, an agender person who considers themself to “perform” the socially defined role of “female” in their day-to-day life), but i generally see that “performance” treated as separate from a person’s actual gender rather than combined into a single term that encompasses both the “performance” and gender. the only exceptions that come to mind are… drag-related identities? but then again, even those identities are viewed as distinctly separate from the actual gender of the person who’s doing the gender “performance”…

i’m no help whatsoever on this, i’m afraid. perhaps others have something to add?