You asked for help concerning the 2 anons in the same situation. It seems to me they separate love life and sex life. Feelings, love, romance on one side separate from sex on the other side. Sexual desire or romantic love for one person but never both for the same person. Sex and romance seem incompatible. Sadly I can’t think of one and only term that includes the 2 parts of this orientation.
i have no way of actually knowing whether or not the two anons are referring to the exact same thing, but…
i feel like saying “they separate love life and sex life” is oversimplifying things and kind of suggests that it’s something that they decidedly do rather than just being how they experience things, even though i know you probably didn’t mean to imply that. i do get what you (and the other two anons) are (/were) saying, though. i think.
it sounds like both anons experience different types of attraction at different times with different people and (at least) two of those types of attraction are mutually exclusive of one another. i just…. don’t know of a term for that, sadly.