[A]sexuality,  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

Q&A: “Is it possible to become asexual as you get older?”

anonymous said:

Is it possible to become asexual as you get older? Like when I started puberty my hormones were through the roof so I’d masturbate but I don’t think I’ve ever really liked sex? It just doesn’t seem necessary or pleasing to me :s

hi, anon. 🙂 a person’s sexuality can certainly change overtime.

it’s worth noting, though, that horniness (or lack there of) has more to do with sex drive or libido than it has to do with one’s sexual orientation. anyone of any sexual orientation can have a low libido just as anyone of any sexual orientation can have a high libido, even an asexual person.

in other words, your sexuality very well may have changed, but you could also be an asexual who just so happens to have (or have had) a libido and masturbates (or masturbated). even one’s libido can change without one’s sexual orientation actually changing.

bottom line: if you feel like asexuality might describe you, i encourage you to run with that feeling. see where it takes you. 🙂

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